The Courage to Be Disliked : How to Free Yourself, Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness Audible Audiobook – Unabridged

Fumitake Koga (Author), Ichiro Kishimi (Author), Adrian Mulraney (Narrator),

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The Japanese phenomenon that teaches us the simple yet profound lessons required to liberate our real selves and find lasting happiness.

The Courage to Be Disliked shows you how to unlock the power within yourself to become your best and truest self, change your future and find lasting happiness. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th-century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, the authors explain how we are all free to determine our own future - free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others.

It's a philosophy that's profoundly liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves. The result is an audiobook that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already benefited from its wisdom. Now that The Courage to Be Disliked has been published in English, so can you.

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6 hours and 50 minutes
Author

Fumitake Koga, see all
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Adrian Mulraney
Audible release date

22 February 2018
Language

English
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Bolinda Publishing Pty Ltd
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B07812SSF5
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Unabridged
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Listening Length	6 hours and 50 minutes
Author	Fumitake Koga, Ichiro Kishimi
Narrator	Adrian Mulraney
Audible.com.au Release Date	22 February 2018
Publisher	Bolinda Publishing Pty Ltd
Program Type	Audiobook
Version	Unabridged
Language	English
ASIN	B07812SSF5
Best Sellers Rank	109 in Audible Books & Originals (See Top 100 in Audible Books & Originals) 4 in Interpersonal Relations (Books) 6 in Relationships (Audible Books & Originals) 11 in Self-Help for Success

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Tamara

Unhappy with your life direction read this book

Reviewed in Australia on 27 June 2018

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Great book which is written in dialogue form or a philosopher and young man. Excellent as the questions that one would have about concepts are answered succinctly. The concepts are deep but it is clear how this can bring about a change of the world from ones eyes. Dancing with moments ❤️

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Simple - Surprising & effective

Reviewed in Australia on 29 May 2019

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This book is a dialogue between a philosopher and youth in which youth is facing a "crisis of meaning" . Kishmi illustrates a firm standpoint and simple answers for complex questions relating to meaning of life.

I have never been a fan of Freudian psychology and it was good to hear a good refutation by Adler.

Whats surprising is that why such a Gem like Adler never made it to the mainstream.

This book is great read. I would definitely recommend ...

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Alex N

Very useful, might just change how I see things!

Reviewed in Australia on 30 May 2020

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Okay, so I actually didn't read through the whole book the first time, possibly as the earlier ideas in the book are ideas that I had already understood as there are similar ideas in Stoicism.
This time I persisted all the way to the ahead, only taking 1 day to read, and I've highlighted so many parts too! Learning about the difference between vertical and horizontal relationships and the separation of tasks will be useful in the years to come.
The book is a little frustrating at first, but then it is written as a continual discussion/argument so naturally there are points of frustration, like you would have observing one in real life. But you end up with a satisfying conclusion.

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AdamMetcalfe

Careful! This book may change your beliefs!!

Reviewed in Australia on 21 September 2018

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I enjoyed the narrative between the philosopher and student in this book. It definitely challenged my views of teh world, and while you wont get a "quick fix" solution (but is there ever such a thing!). I have started to change my mindset based on the individualism concepts presented and it fits better with me.

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frank

Excellent

Reviewed in Australia on 1 February 2019

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What a fantastically told story between teacher and student, combining philosophical and psychological theory with real world practice and demonstration of how the the two can merge in the face of hurdles and adversity to an effective outcome. I highly recommend this book to anyone looking to improve their lives.

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Niall O'Brien

I gave up

Reviewed in Australia on 23 September 2020

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I got through to approximately 30% of the book & became bored so I stopped reading.its designed to challenge your thinking. I found it a challenge to keep reading. Hope you faired better than me.

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Kristie Morrison

Loved it

Reviewed in Australia on 5 September 2018

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Whether you are interested in philosophy or psychology this book is a fascinating read. I thoroughly recommend it as an invaluable insight into what it takes to live a happy life.

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Peter Brimelow

Challenge yourself

Reviewed in Australia on 10 May 2018

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Thought provoking. The disciplines required to be happy, easily understood, you only need the courage.
A book to be read over and over again.

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Josh You ARE

Will flip your mind like a burger if you struggle with wanting the approval of others. A good burger that is...!

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 3 March 2018

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So much of the advice given to 'people pleasers' does not help. Just like yourself. Don't worry what THEY say. Only your opinion matters. If these things were already the case the advice would perhaps not be needed.The courage To Be Disliked is a conversation between a philosopher and a cynical youth who struggles with self-acceptance and dislike of the world. The conversation is slow and a bit boring to start with but soon accelerates into a no-holds barred discussion of what it means to be a member of society and what freedom in that society really is. It's apparently based on the work of Alfred Adler a contemporary of Freud's but is is NOTHING like Freud's work. If you are looking for a truly different set of ways to view the world (and become free of other's opinions) this is it. Freedom, truly is the freedom to be disliked as you will discover. Some of the language takes a bit of getting used too - there are new terms including seeing your fellow man as a 'comrade' in life rather than competition and I can't ever imagine calling anyone Comrade (!). However, the concepts are well worth chewing over and you will have to read the whole thing to get the benefit. I feel I have significantly shifted my views on my place in society as a result of these ideas. One to chew on.

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Janine

This is the most powerful book I've read in a long time

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 11 March 2019

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I was raised by a people pleaser of a mother, and by a family who are very traditional in their approach to life - get a job, stick to it, save money, do what's expected etc. This leads to a miserable way of living a life which was designed by other people, and for other people (considering the people pleasing tendencies). This book is a powerful antidote, which I expect to read again and again.

213 people found this helpful

Interesting Ideas, Terrible Dialogue

Reviewed in India on 19 February 2019

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I bought this book just by looking at the title. The person who has come up with the title deserves commendation. I imagined it to be of the intensity of Ayn Rand or other authors who are about 'individualism' and the courage it takes to stand alone in a crowd. But this book was not about individualism. It is, but in a very mild way. It left me with a feeling that I ordered a fine five course meal and got served hospital soup instead. It was healthy nevertheless. To some extent.

The book is based on theories of Alfred Adler, who if we go by this book, makes some very fine pointers to life and life-situations- Example- how all problems are interpersonal relationship problems, what is freedom, what is contribution, how to separate our tasks from other people's tasks, etc. and I have no issues with any of them, even if I disagree to some extent.

My problem is with the format of the book- which is that of a dialogue between a youth and a philosopher. I would have liked this book to be in some other form of narrative. The dialogue seems unnatural and contrived. The youth is portrayed as a very angry, egoistic and argumentative person. The philosopher is portrayed as someone who only speaks in Alfred Adler's terms and uses Adler's name to end the discussion or draw a conclusion, none of which seem a healthy way of debating. Things would have been better if Adler wasn't mentioned on every other page.

Also, the authors think there is a need to 'explain' what the youth is feeling after each discussion, so they add a post-script note at the end of a topic (The youth was now angry, or perspiring, or wanted to bring the philosopher to his knees, etc. etc.), which makes the dialogue seem very very forced and one-sided. I consider myself a 'youth' and I did not at all relate to the way this youth was asking questions and neither to the way the philosopher was responding.

So my suggestion - Read other works of Adler, or other authors. The gist of the book is very common to other self-development books:
Know your worth.
Let go other people's expectations of you.
Set boundaries.
Make a contribution.
Know what is real freedom.
Quit running after fame and recognition.
Remain present in the here and now.

There are other books which are far better than this and explore similar topics. If at all you decide to read this one, you can fast-read-forward to 100 pages, when the dialogue gets to the heart of the matter.

[The paper quality, fonts, layout and binding of the book are excellent. I bought a hardbound copy for Rs.414]

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kara

Outdated psychological theory. AVOID!

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 4 June 2020

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Please read the one star reviews before you purchase this book; I wish i had!

Firstly there is one positive aspect of this book, which is Adlers stance on inferiority. The book makes some good points on this and how it affects us all during our lives. That, however is all I can say on this matter.

There are so many negatives about this book, that I could probably write a thesis on it, however that would take too long. So here is a brief summary of why this book is AWFUL!

* it dismisses trauma as being your goal of choice. Cause and effect is simply a lie and basically it’s your fault if you choose to be affected by trauma. Which is highly dangerous, as trauma actually changes the brain and how it operates on a neurological level. This concept throughout the book, also belittles people that have mental health conditions, that some how their disability is simply their goal. Very very outdated psychological theory.

*it reads like a very poorly written play. The chapters cover extremely complex psychological issues, which are brushed over very quickly by the philosopher saying ‘I’m right, your wrong, stop being pathetic and get some courage.

* the book discusses that people’s opinion should not matter (Interpersonal relationships). Yet it highlights that you should behave in a set way. Be completely self independent from parents, be married, have children. People choose different paths, achieve things at different times in their life, some have such difficult mental health issues that just getting through the day is tough. The book is contradictory and has a ‘victim blaming’ attitude throughout the chapters.

Please don’t read this book, if you have general anxiety disorder, suffering with depression or any other mental health disability. It will only make you feel worse about yourself. The old adage of ‘pull yourself together, really is not appropriate or relevant in 2020. If you WANT to feel even more rubbish about yourself, then definitely by this book! The book as no empathy or any understanding of what trauma can cause for people.

If you WANT to feel better about yourself, then purchase books that promote compassionate cognitive behavioural therapy. Not this garbage.

94 people found this helpful

Tom Vaughan-Mountford

Inititally not a fan... but became a convert!

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 1 September 2018

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I was attracted by the title, and figured there was nothing to lose as it was only a quid. Initially I struggled with the writing style - the whole book is a dialogue between two people - which felt a little awkward and laboured at first. After a few pages I began to see the sense in structuring it this way, and it actually became a very pleasing read. There are lots of interesting psychological arguments and opportunities to delve into your own attitudes to life. Definitely recommend reading!

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